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Title: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on March 19, 2013, 02:57:08 PM
Different tangent on Geezerville this time although it pertains a lot to those of us guys who are at or are rapidly approaching geezer status.  I was diagnosed with prostate cancer a couple months ago and believe chronicling my journey through the disease may be of some help to others confronted with it.  I held off on posting on this subject as I had a resume in to a company that could use my skills but I didn't want them to find out about the disease before I had a chance to tell them first.  Looks like the company's ambitions have become a casualty of the sequestration.  Hence, I'm posting on this very personal subject that affects lots of others in my situation (and their family/significant others).  I'm not going to post it all in just this one post as I have yet to have surgery (scheduled for mid-May) so I'll start with suspicion and pre-diagnosis in my next post.  Just wanted to let ya'll to know Geezerville will detour from the normal varied subject matter in the past to one primarily focused on this blasted disease.  Meantime, I'm self-employed and have to earn a living so I will post when the opportunity presents or when I feel like it. 
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: CountryLady on March 20, 2013, 12:44:11 AM
Having been through the ladies' version of your current health challenge, I want to say :ty2 for sharing your personal journey. I hope your story will motivate others to be aware of the danger signs and to check anything suspicious with their family doctor.

Cancer is a big deal, but its becoming smaller thanks to the research and clinical trials going on around the world. More and more of us are surviving cancer and even more are finding the side effects of treatment less and less difficult to get through.

I'd like to share something that was given to my DD when she found out that she had stage 4 Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma a few years ago. BTW, she has since become a Cancer Survivor~!

What Cancer Cannot Do
Author: Unknown

Cancer is so limited...
It cannot cripple love.
It cannot shatter hope.
It cannot corrode faith.
It cannot eat away peace.
It cannot destroy confidence.
It cannot kill friendship.
It cannot shut out memories.
It cannot silence courage.
It cannot reduce eternal life.
It cannot quench the Spirit.
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 10, 2013, 07:39:48 PM
Surgery very, very soon!  Will be glad to get this done and over with.  Some here are Facebook friends so they can get the word to folks here at OCH.  I posted the following on Facebook and wish to post it here as well ('cause it's true):  "Some of my meat world and some FB friends know I have cancer. Just a quick note to all that surgery will be very, very soon. I have instructed my daughter to post something on my page if things don't go as planned. In that regard, I wish to apologize to anyone I have offended over the years. Please know that if I have, it was unintentional. I strive to always do no harm and walk the middle path. I'm looking forward to getting this situation resolved so I can get back to normal (the word "normal" when describing me is subjective as many friends have told me). I will post following surgery."  I have not posted the exact date on FB for home security purposes.  My daughter and niece will be here at home while my wife and I are doing the Cleveland thing.
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: chloe on May 11, 2013, 08:37:43 AM
Magispook

First let me say you are in my thoughts and prayer.
The road you are traveling with the cancer with all the uncertaintyís is a hard road.
I do feel you with the help of our family and friends we can handle anything.


 :hug
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 11, 2013, 12:33:27 PM
Thanks Chloe.  At this point, I consider myself along for the ride as I've done what it is I can do.  Hope to be out and about in a couple weeks.
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: jollyquilter on May 11, 2013, 04:13:10 PM
Dan.... :pray you take care and please let your wife know we are praying for her as well.
See you soon friend.
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Garnet on May 13, 2013, 09:09:22 PM
 :love  Sending love and prayers for you and the surgical team and all who provide care during your procedure  and recovery. 
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: CountryLady on May 13, 2013, 09:46:58 PM
 :getwell Joining in the prayers for a quick and totally successful recovery. :pray :cigar :pray

Dan, we're including your wife and family in our thoughts & prayers as well. :smihearts
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: taylor on May 14, 2013, 09:11:51 AM
 :pray from Mid Mo Spook.

Have know you for a few years now through OCH and have always known you to be an intelligent gentle hearted guy who would hurt no one intentionally. Very good of you to have your ducks in a row before surgery. Will they let you take your banjo to the hospital? Might keep your mind off things  :giggle
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: CountryLady on May 14, 2013, 12:19:22 PM
Oh NO Miz Taylor, don't tell him that~! He might get to playing those bawdy, risque ballads while he's on pain pills and embarrass his sweet wife. :blush

BTW, Magispook posted that he's "doing well, considering" on his facebook yesterday.
He's probably even back home by now. :hug

Be well and take the pain pills like the Doctor ordered. :tap
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: jollyquilter on May 14, 2013, 12:49:42 PM
Thanks  for the update CL, for those of us who don't do FB.

Glad to hear all went well and we look forward to  seeing you around here soon.
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: chloe on May 14, 2013, 06:59:13 PM
Me to, Me to,
Thanks CL for letting us know.

Waiting for more updates  :hug

Thoughts and Prayers are still coming your way Magispook
You know your family are always included in my   :pray
:gruphug
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Garnet on May 15, 2013, 12:49:12 PM
 :wave4  Nothing feels so good post op as going home ... and having those close to you close by as care givers.   :pray :pray for comfort and good health for you and your wife and all who help out.
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 15, 2013, 01:21:48 PM
Thanks all.  Just got home five minutes ago.
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: jollyquilter on May 15, 2013, 01:43:37 PM
Welcome   Home  Dan!!    Now go and rest and let your wife spoil you.  Glad  to have  you home and look  forward to hearing from  you as you feel  up  to it.
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: CountryLady on May 15, 2013, 05:09:07 PM
Woohoo~! :smihearts :welcome :4u The SPOOK is IN the HOUSE~! :gruphug :gparty9:

Welcome Back Dan. :hug Glad you're doing well enough to come home so quickly. :clap

Let us know if there is anything you need. Now rest :sleep and :getwell :cigar
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 16, 2013, 09:51:15 AM
Having problems getting comfortable due to lower back and sciatic pain which I had prior to surgery so I'll try to keep this post short.  A few lessons learned:  We got a guest house room at the clinic which had a kitchenette.  My reasoning was my wife could cook her ethnic meals there which would lessen the stress on her.  I packed my camping cookset just in case.  Good thing I did as there wasn't any cookware or dishes included.  My wife got sick while there.  We ended up taking care of each other.  She is getting better.  I find it very difficult to accept help in doing everyday tasks I have taken for granted all these years.  I am working hard to develop alternate strategies for this such as using a cane which helps with walking but also for retrieving things.  The sleep mask and ear plugs did not get used but I had a roommate check in the day I checked out and his non-stop snoring was so bad the ear plugs would not have helped.  I thought of this last night:  My VA urologist gave me five years survival without treatment.  Which means to me at the age of 57, if I make it to 62, it's all gravy as I will be living on borrowed time.  I need to make the best of the rest of my years.  (Survival rate is ten to fifteen years with treatment).  I really appreciate all the prayers and good thoughts during this ordeal.  They meant a lot and an argument can be made they were effective.  I have pain meds but I wait until I can't stand it any more before taking them in order to prevent any future dependence.  That's all for now.
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: CountryLady on May 16, 2013, 01:54:40 PM
:hug :hug for both of you. :4u :4u Sorry y'all are under the weather. :getwell :getwell
At least y'all are home. :love :clap

Dan, taking a pain pill for a few days isn't going to make you addicted to them. You will heal more quickly and better if you'll listen to this advice. The doctor isn't going to let become addicted. It might be your "male ego" talking to you. :p :devil

You'll both be in my/our prayers for a fast recovery and long, happy, healthy life. :gparty9:
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: chloe on May 16, 2013, 06:32:27 PM
Magispook glad you are home now.
I understand the feeling of needing more help than ever before.

I will tell you what my DH said to me.
"Please allow me to help now as it my turn to show you how much you mean to me."

Just be sure to mind what the Dr. said about what you can and can't do.
It could be harder in the long run if you don't :knuppel2:
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 17, 2013, 04:39:25 PM
Got a call from my doc at Cleveland Clinic today--a full week earlier than expected.  Pathology report in.  CANCER FREE!  Will follow-up with a confirming PSA end of June.    :clap
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: chloe on May 17, 2013, 07:23:11 PM
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Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: CountryLady on May 17, 2013, 08:23:41 PM
 :ghurray2:  CANCER FREE~!  :cigar  FANTASTIC NEWS~!  :pray PTL~!

Thank you for sharing this wonderful news with us. :congrats 
     Let's celebrate...   :gcup09 :cake1 :gtea12:

              :gruphug
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: jollyquilter on May 18, 2013, 12:25:18 PM
WOOT   :clap      Woot!  :pray  PTL!

That is fabo news! Did someone say party?
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 18, 2013, 01:02:20 PM
Well, if there is a party ladies, remember what the urologists said about keeping your man's prostate health in good order.   I did celebrate with a dark chocolate orange/almond bar yesterday and felt no guilt about it at all.  :giggle
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: CountryLady on May 18, 2013, 01:08:32 PM
:gmegaphone1:   Gather 'round folks...

     New party food for Magispooks Cancer-free shindig...

    .....dark chocolate orange/almond bars all around~!
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Garnet on May 18, 2013, 01:12:40 PM
 :pray Thankful for good news!

BTW, DH was taking the max pain med for a month while everything was being done in preparation for pelvic-hip revision and a few weeks post op.  He stopped abruptly and has never experienced any addiction.  Maybe a couple of days were a little weird during withdrawal.  Maybe gradual withdrawal would have been wise, according to the dr.   But he said if DH had made it through 2 days ok, he had probably survived the worst part.  And so it was.  Oh, and he's 7 yrs post op and doing well.

 
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Garnet on May 18, 2013, 01:18:24 PM
 :wave4 oops, back for a dark chocolate orange/almond bar   :ty2
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: CountryLady on May 18, 2013, 01:21:41 PM
Be sure to grab one for "Garnet's Guy". :wave4 :smihearts :gruphug
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 18, 2013, 01:52:06 PM
Garnet:  Down to one a day at present.  Once I get these staples out, I can massage the painful area to speed up healing.  Good to hear about the meds.  Thanks.
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 26, 2013, 07:44:56 AM
Complacency - Haven't wet the bed for fifty years......until now.  I have man pads but decided I have progressed enough not to use em.  Happened during one of those rare real sleep episodes.  Lesson learned.  Haven't taken prescription pain meds in a few days.  Just Tylenol.  Saw my doc friend in the hallway when I had the staples and catheter removed.  He also made sure I know not to lift anything over ten pounds for the next month.  That's hard to do but I will comply.  Asked him about walking and he said yes but don't overdo it.  So I'm mall walking early morning and am up to 1.8 miles which is pushing it.  I won't go beyond that distance for a couple days.  Neighbor will cut the grass today.  I feel guilty.  One would think I'd be writing up a storm but  the muse is not with me yet.  Talked on the phone with a cancer survivor work acquaintance.  She says we must both walk in the next survivor walk and that I need to get the T-shirt.  That's about it. 
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: chloe on May 26, 2013, 12:38:57 PM
   Magispook   I hope you do exactly what the DRís have told you to do.
It may seem like not too much now but you may have more problems in the further if you donít mine
Your P and Q.


 SO!!!!! Donít over do    :)   :whip
:hug
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 26, 2013, 03:10:50 PM
Oh Chloe, rest assured I don't want to go through this part again so I'll be a good soldier and follow orders.  Trouble is the military trains you to think up ways to follow orders while doing what you want as well even though it is completely opposite the intent of the orders.  There is a supposed quote from an 1894 Army Officer's Manual that says "Enlisted men are stupid, but extremely cunning and sly, and bear considerable watching."  Being an old retired Master Sergeant, I'm proud to say that I resemble portions of that remark. I'll leave it up to individual readers to determine which words.   :lol
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: chloe on May 26, 2013, 09:20:51 PM
Well (retired) Master Sergeant I see how you are.

ďDo as I say do not as I do.Ē  :giggle
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 26, 2013, 10:00:11 PM
As a SNCO, I followed orders and did that which was expected of me but I was, ahem, not the traditional SNCO.  Example, it was not unusual for me to spontaneously start a "wave" like they do at sports arenas just prior to commander's call.  Envision commanders call as a mass meeting of all employees to hear the plant manager brief on upcoming policies, tasks, award medals and promotions, etc.  In other words, a stuffy meeting that had to be attended but you didn't have to like to attend it.  We would all wait in a big room for the old man (commander) to come in as someone called all personnel to attention and the formal business started.  I would start the wave while we were waiting.  The officer corps also had to attend and they would just shake their heads incredulously when I started up.  Mind you, they would be doing the wave as well.  So I can play the game.  I just like to add some of my own rules in between.  Right now, I can lift 25 pounds while sitting and not get into trouble simply by lifting a five pound bag five times.  That's where the "bear considerable watching" part of the quote comes in.   :)
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: CountryLady on May 28, 2013, 01:50:24 PM
That's just the West Virginia in ya that makes you do things like that. :ROFL
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on May 28, 2013, 01:56:45 PM
Could be CL.  Hillbilly = hillbilly.  My mom used to say (of me) "you can dress him up but you can't take him anywhere."
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: chloe on May 28, 2013, 03:04:41 PM
Magispook You just won't do  :giggle
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on July 02, 2013, 03:16:45 PM
Just wanted to share.  Heh, heh, heh.  Got my labs in today. PSA was as close to zero as they could measure....that confirms the surgeon got ALL the cancer. Some may (or may not) know that I have been diligently trying to lose weight and improve my diabetes numbers this past quarter. Got those results too: lost fifteen pounds and my all important HbA1c numbers now are comfortably in the range of those folks who aren't afflicted with that accursed disease. So my wife and I went out for a nice guilt-free lunch. Yay!   :partay
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: chloe on July 02, 2013, 06:30:26 PM
Magispook

I am so pleased to hear the good news.  :ghurray2:

I think these wake up calls really help us get back on our health track.

Keep up the good work.  :)  :hug
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on July 02, 2013, 08:21:40 PM
Yep, now the challenge is to do even better or at least maintain status quo.  After having undergone the process, I'm in the corner for anyone battling the Big C (it can be defeated).   :)
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: CountryLady on July 03, 2013, 07:56:34 PM
 :ghurray2: WAY TO GO, DAN~! :cheer :congrats

and Chloe, these are for you sweetheart.... :4u

DH is getting on the "get healthier bandwagon" too, now that he is doing well after a terrible bleeding ulcer. He's diabetic too and has been struggling to keep his numbers down but they just kept rising, so they have him on insulin now. Some of the meds get sluggish they say and you have to step up. :idk I do know he's really working on it.

ALL of you are inspiring. :clap
Title: Re: Geezerville 12
Post by: Magispook on July 03, 2013, 08:09:24 PM
Glad to see he's doing better.   :)